Friday 17 February 2012
The Girl in Red
We got back to KL on Monday before the expiry of my Singapore Social Visit Pass. On the same day, Lely was transferred to St Luke's Community Hospital for rehabilitative treatment.
I do not mollycoddle people - you get no gooey-gushy words of solace from me. I give firstly and always my doa and then my most heartfelt effort to maintain a pragmatic perspective on the situation.
When Lely became depressed, a very natural reaction from such a trauma, my words of comfort could only take this form. "Lely, you had only a 50-50 chance of surviving your operation. You could have died on the operating table or ended up as a vegetable. But you're still with us today with most of your faculties intact albeit in need of tough rehabilitation. Allah must have a reason for giving you this second chance and you and we must make sure you fulfil and justify this gift."
Lely's progress from Monday January 16 has been nothing short of a miracle. With physiotherapy, her left side is beginning to show signs of activity. In the coming difficult, long and frustrating months she shall never be alone. Family and friends came to her bedside from Hong Kong (her brother Jeff), Rohaya flew in from Perth immediately and went straight to the hospital at 2am on Tuesday. We could only get away from Leicester on Tuesday and got to NUH on Wednesday afternoon. Shyama stopped over from Jakarta just like Lely's former boss Fred Kilgore. From JB came Mahzan and Sabrina and her old classmate Ashari. On 1 February, the two young mums Maria and Hidayah flew in from KL for a day-trip. A few days later her old classmate Din came to visit, also from KL.
There was of course her mother Mary and all the extended family, young and elderly. Lely's colleagues and friends were frequent visitors giving her an incredible amount of support. So Lely, in your uphill climb you will never be stranded on your own. These friends ......
I wrote this letter today which Oi Bek will read to you when she visits during the weekend.
".......remember girl, when you are undergoing this rehabilitative care, you are not like a baby learning to move. A baby begins with nothing. You have a rich cache of an active and vibrant life to start from. You are like the bird who was injured while in flight and now you are being helped to fly again. Remember how some of James Herriot's 'friends' were brought back to their old selves? So persevere - take your life in both hands, nurture and appreciate the chance and accept all the challenges. There's a new Lely waiting to come out. There's still a lot for you to do and achieve.
Remember what Iain said? YOU ARE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND! And there are also all your other best friends to nudge you along.
The road is lonely, long and deep
But I have promises to keep.
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep. (Robert Frost)
Be stubborn and keep the wing/wings flapping.