My usual remedy is to go through my magpie collection of old books and this made me smile.
But first, listen to this ...........
You see, I have this Duckworth's Encyclopaedia from 1891.
|The Wife's Duty|
Here are some of the main points.
1.Be careful in your purchases. Let your husband know what you buy and that you have wisely expended your income. ( I don't, especially after a spending spree at Charity shops like "Animal Rescue"in Leicester. And if he notices them I will shrug my shoulders and say it's coming from my state pension, lah, which is about 22 GBP a week!)
2. Let no wife devote a large portion of her time to society work which shall keep her away from home daytimes and evenings, without the full concurrence of her husband. ( The spouse reciprocates this rule except when he disappears into a second hand bookshop.)
3. Beware of entrusting the confidence of your household to outside parties. The moment you discuss the faults of your husband with another, that moment an element of discord has been admitted which will one day rend your family circle. ( Isn't that called backbiting which no one, whatever the relationship, should do to another. As for me I call the spouse a MOG or Miserable ole git, a SOG or Silly ole git and he regards me as his 'Tart' . And we say that to all our friends and relatives!!)
4. Beware of bickering about little things. ....... he is in the habit of giving commands .... and the same dictatorial spirit may possess him in the domestic circle. ( I have to remind the spouse that all items in the kitchen should be properly kept, there's a place for everything and everything has its place. )
5. Be always very careful of your conduct and language. A husband is largely restrained by the chastity, purity and refinement of his wife. ( For a number of months last year the spouse was unable to do the driving. Three times a week I had to drive to Tung Shin Hospital at Pudu. Such is the level of driving in Kuala Lumpur that you cannot keep your sanity without screaming expletives in the car. All the spouse could do was to roll his eyes upwards in despair and once asked, "Where did you learn those words?". I gave a short crisp answer, "From my workmates in Leicester!!"
6. Whatever may have been the cares of the day, greet your husband with a smile when he returns. Make your personal appearance just as beautiful as possible. ( I will when he does.)
7. Be careful that you do not estimate your husband solely by his ability to make display......... The superior qualities of mind and heart alone will bring permanent happiness. ( When either of us say "I love you" to the other - the response is always the same - "What for?" )
8. A man does not alone require that his wife be a good housekeeper. She must be more; in conversational talent and accomplishment she must be a companion. ( I'm not a good housekeeper but I always try to have the last word and I'm also an accomplished listener.)
AND FINALLY - a tip from 1891 for all those who do not know how to make money - especially those who live on the urban fringes and in the rural areas. It is still applicable today and it must work - when you see the well-heeled and influential scoundrels surrounding us today.